Fake Friends

Fake Friends

Exactly what the title says. The people you think are your friends but then end up doing things behind your back. More and more friendships are getting like this and it really is just getting sad and pointless.

This particular movie picture I have chosen really is a perfect example of fake friendships if you have seen the movie you'd understand what I am talking about. For those of you who haven't seen this movie I will be writing about why I chose this particular picture for this post.

This movie which is titled Mean Girls which in the title says it all. Summary it is about a new high school student who lived in Africa and hasn't attended a "real"school until what would be junior year i believe i could be wrong about the year but moving on. She gets noticed by these 3 girls whom by the whole school are known as "The plastics" girls who think they are better than everyone and are fake towards everyone and even to each other. 

Now moving on to what I was going to be talking about. Anyways fake friendships are becoming more and more of a phase and it is really ridiculous. Seriously you have friends that back stab you and just say things to other people that really isn't true.

I've been in certain situations where I've had friends and myself find out who our true friends are. 

One situation where I had recently accepted a friend back into my life after a lot of months of not speaking to this person. Not long after I have accepted this person back into my life already she starts talking behind my back and behind one of my best friends back...to me!

Honestly the nerve. Anyways she tells me on the phone while having a conflict with my best friend on the phone she tells me "I am the type of person now that when I need you I will call you" in my mind I was like "you are fucking kidding me". Well she was confronted by my best friend about the things that I have told her. If you talk shit about my friend I am going to tell you straight up if you have a problem with them then you need to talk to them. And that is what I said to her. And yet she never said a word. Of course I am going to tell my best friend I can't be silent about that shit. No one should if you care about the person and it is about them. Not to cause drama on purpose no they need to know but in YOUR own words not that "Omg so and so said this" no that's high school shit. If you know what the person said then you should say"hey what i heard was this and I'm not sure if it is word for word but i just wanted to let you know."

Back to what I was saying She never told my friend what she said so the friendship was pretty much ended there. 

Me and this person are still to this day friends. And she still has not confessed to what she has said about me. She has called me a few times and texted me when she needed me but I'm not really saying anything to her except telling her how it is. For her to truly get it through her head I'm just going to make it a difficult learning experience. Sounds harsh but it depends on the person.

Here are some tips on how to handle friends that are fake

Listen to your instincts about someone: If you have a bad feeling in your gut or every bone in your body shakes until it reaches your soul then that would be a big sign that you clearly need to avoid having anything to do with this person. 90% of the time your gut instinct is right on.

If you hear that someone is talking shit about you ask the person first: Meaning if someone tells you that someone said something then you better talk to that person first before making any decisions

Words get twisted: Like I said in above make sure you talk to the person first because words will always get twisted by someone and it's better to hear it from the person who supposedly said it. 

Watch and listen to how things are said: the way it is said and how it is presented in body language says two complete different things if you know them well look at their body and listen to how they speak and see what is different or what is the same. 

Trust the feeling you have in your gut and listen to your brain and think logically and you should be okay in finding out who your true friends are. 

If you already know drop them quick.Honestly I'd never really tell anyone to drop someone but if they messed up one time then I'd at least take another chance on them. Although if they have a past of messing up or if you think they have changed but proved otherwise then sorry but that's not the type of person that you need in your life.

Friends are like your lifeline outside your family. They are a 2nd family at least the ones that are there for you and vice versa. A friendship is a give and take 50/50.No more no less. If you are giving or putting more effort into the friendship then there needs to be some talking going on there.

Always communicate is also important.If you don't like something they are doing you must let them know and vice versa. Not just drop someone in that case. It is wrong to drop someone if they have no idea what the hell is going on in the first place. That is why talking is so important in a friendship or a relationship.

Final words make sure you know who's you friend I mean true friend 

Make sure you talk to them before making a decision 

and if you have done all those things and they aren't the type of person that needs to stick in your life then they need to go.