Friendships
Lately from what I've been observing all around is that all friendships are being strained and of course are being ended.The question is why are all these friendships ending now?
Lately I've been surfing the net and just plain old observing life outside of the internet and lately from what I've observed is that a lot of people's friendships are starting to come to an end and for rather interesting reasons and reasons that aren't really explained.Friendships are a different type of relationship also they are not really an easy thing to keep.True friendships are difficult to find as is.From the looks of it that's what people are starting to find out now.Friendships are starting to be tested for what they really are.
But to get to my main point here best friends are starting to grow apart.Question is why?Because those friends are starting to show their true colors.What people need to realize is that some people change others don't.Meaning you never assume you know anyone but yourself no matter how long you have been with them.
The truth of the fact is that you don't know what is going on in someone's head,and chances are you may never will.When people start to change their minds they start to change all their actions as well.All over they are screwing each other over for stupid reasons.It just seems like some friendships are not meant to be even if they seemed like a long time already.People change friendships change.
That's pretty much all there is to really know.
It's honestly sad but there isn't much that many people can do about it.The world itself is changing therefore the people are changing along with it.But not in the way that they should.People are finding that sex is so much easier to find and love got harder to find.Any kind of love friendships or relationships.Not many people are caring since they are changing themselves to better fit the world to it's liking.if that makes any sense.
People come and go in our lives friends,family,lovers.All of course are suppose to be all temporary until death or life steps in and takes them away.Friends are the same as family or lovers.All three do not have to stay forever.There is no family,friends, or lovers are forever thing. Truth is nothing is forever.There are no written words no unspoken bonds that people just KNOW that they should stay.Honestly they stay because they want to and they leave because they choose to.Sometimes there is no reason as to why it's just something that happens.Sometimes they have reasons but they aren't really in a sharing mood for whatever reason.You may never know why and there are endless possibilities that you can think of.But wondering why will never give you the answer.Only that person can.
Just know that everyone changes and sometimes it's just really depressing.But the only thing you can do is just do what's best for you.And know you don't always need someone at your side.It would be a nice thing to have but sometimes that it not always the case.
People change but you do your best to live your life as best as you can and make the most of it.
Bitter Ex's
Ah a lovely topic once again.Ever wonder why after a break up your ex starts to avoid you,makes you feel like you have done something completely wrong and then you start to wonder why?Well now is the time to stop wondering because from my personal experience I will tell you what I've learned.
Well I can tell you one thing if you had nothing to do with whatever led up to the break up I can tell you that it wasn't your fault and you did nothing wrong.On the other hand if you knew you had a helping hand well this blog isn't going to make you feel any better.
Anyhow about the wondering if you did something wrong.No it wasn't anything you done.If you never saw it coming then that means that there is something wrong with them not with you.Them acting bitter towards you shows that they feel guilt or anger towards something and instead of facing it they point the blame towards you or the people that they love or are close to them.It's never clear as to why they act this way.
Bitterness is just a trigger of anger and pain.Where there is bitterness there is anger and where there is anger there is pain as an underlying problem.Pain and hurt makes people do things they don't want to do or end up regretting what they do or say.Some people can stay bitter or angry for a very long time and it will never be clear to us why they did what they did.
But I'm here to tell you that you did nothing wrong and it's not your problem it's theirs.You can constantly ask why and want to know why they did what they did but truth is you may never know.Even if you loved them immensely and you had a strong connection.There are just somethings we cannot control and people we cannot help no matter how much we want to.We cannot help someone that doesn't want the help.
But to be straight with all those who read this.I do know what it is like to have someone and fall in love with them and have them fall in love with you and have them wake up one day and decide to leave you.Even though you know you did nothing wrong,but then they act angry or evade you and you having to not know why.Wanting with all your heart and soul to help but knowing you can't because they just wont let you in anymore.It breaks your heart.The pain you feel will always be immense and there is nothing that would help the pain go away no matter how bad you want to.But it does get easier to handle after a shit ton of crying and screaming into your pillow or punching the shit out of things.We've all felt pain and we've all felt anger,but how we deal with it is our problem and no one else's.Don't ever take your pain or anger on someone who doesn't deserve it especially when you know exactly how it felt.
So what should you do?
Smile.It's a lot harder than it sounds.But the best thing you can do is smile through the pain because it is something that will get you through the day.
in the words of frank from supernatural
"Decide to be fine until the end of the week,make yourself smile because your alive and that's your job and do it again the next week do it right with a smile or don't do it."
Very inspiring show at least if you listen to what they have to say.But do your best to live day to day and go on with your life.Can't always hold onto the past no matter how bad you want to.Someday you may get the answer from that person or you may not.The best thing you can do is try and be happy,and move on with your own life.
Trust me you wouldn't want to be stuck in the past and wondering why.
Give it time they may or may not come around.
Point being don't wait just live your life the way you want to.
I've included a website about Defense mechanisms it may give an insight to how certain people think and do things.If you think that this site may apply to someone you recently lost a bitter ex or just wondering why you are the one being attacked maybe not physically but emotionally this site may help you understand more about that.
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