Relationships NOW

Relationships are far more different now than they were say 10 years ago and much further than that.I am 22 years old and have had my fair share of relationships with men and yes also with women but not at the same time.

So what's the difference?

Well from what I have been observing over the years is that no one is settled with just one person anymore and let's face it Guys at first you were running the relationship/player games.Most of you guys  and I say most because not every guy is the same way.Getting back to what I was saying most guys were off playing games with potential partners some seeing if they were worthy to be "the one" or to just play the field and have no attachments.And others just didn't really care what was going to happen to the other for some reason that isn't always clear except to the one who does it all.

The thing about guys "playing the field" or doing whatever they were doing to go through the relationship over the years women everywhere started to have enough of all the games.Now it turns out most of the guys that didn't want a relationship before are starting to want true ones now or guys want real relationships in general.Well guys sorry to burst your bubble but it looks like the Girls are getting the ultimate revenge against you even if you weren't the one who did anything to the girls you are being included in the so called "revenge".Women are now taking over the game and it really is a shame.

No I am not discriminating or saying which sex or gender is being the worse in this world that's not what this blog is about so don't get it twisted.

It is just clear now that people are forgetting what real relationships are about and are too busy playing all these ridiculous games so that no one gets hurt.Well news flash and I can't begin to stress this enough EVERYONE is getting hurt!it doesn't matter if you are male or female all these stupid games to see who is worthy or just to get sex is just pure madness!really what is the point in all of this?what is going to happen when you want to settle down and find someone but can't because they are not looking for a relationship or when they are just toying with you to get what they want?

You are going to end up being the one that is hurt the most.

Our generation and under is suffering because everyone wants to be kids and play all these games that don't make any sense.Looking at generations before us you wonder why there were so many people that stayed together it's because they didn't make the mistake this generation is starting to.

I've visited so many websites 

Myyearbook aka Meetme.com is supposed to be a site that is for connecting to your friends and probably meeting new ones and end up being potential dates.

What I've noticed:I've been on this site for quiet a while and a couple years ago connecting to friends and finding potentials is what the site was all about at the time.

Difference Now:Now all it is about is to be honest all about sex and hooking up for drugs and other crap.I have never seen so many people looking for a "hook up" I may be young but I still know the difference between hooking up and being in a relationship.I can't believe how many times I have seen guys write how it's hard to find a girl that will be "real" with you or one that isn't a complete slut. Oy the thought about it all just gives me a headache.Or girls that are looking for a knight and shining armor face it girls we aren't going to find anyone like that because any ones idea of a perfect partner is all in your head.No one is perfect at all get over it.

Okcupid.com:Another popular dating site that matches you with whoever based on questions you answer in your profile and the ratings are classified under Match, Friend, and Enemy.

Usually I am not judgemental but lately this thing about people have been irritating me especially women.I apologize if you take offense but this has to be said.

What I've Noticed:Yes anyone can be on this site and put their preference on if they want casual sex, friendship, relationship, ect... which is fine because lets face it if we want causal sex we aren't going to mark here for relationships right?fine.

Irritation:I've been on this site quiet a while as well just to chat and see if there are any potentials but there are just so many ridiculous things on this site I can't even begin to explain.But the thing that I've been noticing so far is that people that are in a relationship already are on this site.I'm not done yet so don't complain.The problem that gets me is that all these people are in a relationship and yet are looking for ANOTHER to add fun to their relationship.Well great except you are on a dating site not a let's have sex and that's it site.The point of dating sites is that people that are already SINGLE have a chance to find someone not to include themselves in your little sex only relationship.That's just unrealistic and honestly selfish because you want someone to have sex with and your partner is okay with that.Sorry that's not how a relationship works.

Also those who are single but not looking for a relationship or to even talk to anyone on the sites any sites really honestly what the hell are you there for then?seriously you want nothing to do with anyone or aren't looking for something then get off the site.Friends?fine but if you aren't there for anything then seriously don't waste your time being on there and don't waste other peoples time by being on there looking for nothing.

Where was I going with this?oh yes!What I am trying to explain to everyone is love real love has become something much harder to find since sex became so much easier to get.Admit it we all know it's true now.Everywhere I go now everyone is just either talking about sex or drugs my goodness that is not something you just spill your guts out in the street about!and teenagers wow teens the way the girls are dressing sorry S-L-U-T status not all but most are trying to look older and show more skin truth is WAY too much skin.And they really wonder why they are not taken seriously...girls don't dress like you are going to a night club or make yourself look older sorry but you all look like hookers or really cheap and easy and not all of you want to be perceived as that.There will always be a time in the future to dress like a woman on the move to a night club to have fun and I mean fun as in having fun with friends and dancing not having sex with some random stranger.

Teenage boys yeay fun subject here.Along with the girls the guys are all trying to act "hard" and other crap by telling their friends oh yea I did her or I did this drug and that. Whoa now slow down there guys you are still just TEENS and you really don't want to screw up your life or potential relationships before you even reach 20.Believe me you don't want horrible reputations later on in life because those follow you everywhere weather you know it or not.There are so much more you teens can be guy/girl you know whatever you guys are just starting to find out who you are going to be in the world don't start out that journey with drugs and stupid sex talks that will end up ruining you.

What We Don't Get:

Last thing that people are not seeming to understand and yet it keeps being brought up and is constantly talked about.

Trying to understand the opposite sex.

Women say men are hard to understand and are difficult or impossible

Men say the exact same thing about women 

truth is no one gender is more difficult than the other it is just the things we do and handle are DIFFERENT! and I cannot stress this enough.Honestly men and women are not difficult to each other because it is in our genetic coding as women or men its the fact that we don't understand the differences in how we do things.

If you really want to know the true difference between men and women the simple explanation is there aren't a difference between us just the way we handle things and why.

Women are raised and are naturally nurturing and express their emotions when they talk about whatever they are passionate about and things that bother them the most.

Men are a little difference they are raised to be as strong or even stronger than their fathers or male figures that came before them.To express their emotions as less as possible to keep from getting hurt and to mask their pain behind emotional walls.

Some women actually hide their pain behind a really thick wall better than men 

and some men actually are more nurturing and emotional (once their trust wall comes down) just as much as women.

Like I said WE are not different the things we do and how we do them are different.

-Kristin